What You Don't Know (Lulu Wang).
This story is about a woman, Lulu Wang, who her and her family kept secret that her grandmother is actually dying of cancer and only has three months to live. So they devise a plan to have a fake wedding, which was actually supposed to happening a year. In order to get all the family together and see her but she doesn’t know that they’re doing the wedding just to see her. It’s a whole elaborate lie just for their grandmother who doesn’t know she’s dying now the question is do we agree with what the family is doing, meaning is it really okay that they’re keeping it a secret other than just telling her?
I agree wholeheartedly with their decision to keep it a secret from her because as they said in this story that the mental health and emotion is very, very important to physical health. Yes, she is right by saying that it is unfair that they won’t tell her but, in the same breath like her dad is trying to explain her that sometimes it’s okay to lie. That plays a huge role with this story, is it okay to lie.
In situations like that even in your last moments of life, do you really want to be reminded of what’s to come? To be depresses last few months because I am waiting for the end to come rear its ugly head, to me it’s not worth it at all. I personally would rather be extremely ecstatic and happy for those last three months rather than sad, worried, or anxious all those types of depressing emotions. in this story they even said that shes been fine and outstayed the expected time she had because of the cancer. Honestly I do agree, more than anything that sometimes it is okay to lie, if it’s to save someone heart ache then by all means, go ahead.
Background information: This is going to be the hardest truth I had to break to someone before. I was just coming out of a two year relationship, very hurt and very broken going through recovery at the time as well. I felt pressured by two people who I thought were friends at the time to give him a "try" hang out with all of us, etc. To be completely honest I thought it was just going to be a one night stand, I didn’t want anything else, I wanted me time that's it.
I felt bad because he kept trying to get my attention all the time, so we kept hanging out a little while after the one night and he decided it was a perfect time to ask if we can make this official. I said " that's fine" then he asked me if I believed in love at first sight, I jokingly said "sure, I guess I do" and that’s when he spilled the beans literally two week later after we met, saying "I love you so much. I want to spend the rest my life with you. I want to move in together." all this stuff so from there I’m like oh... I'm stuck in a very sticky situation. For the next couple months he would try to say I love you almost every two days and I would just brush it off and not acknowledge it. I guess that he would just shrug it off thinking maybe she’s busy and she definitely does love me. I wouldn’t say I love you, i would explain to him that's not something to say right away like I just got out of a two year relationship like you have to understand I’m not trying to commit to something so extreme.
Forward 1 month later I am depressed, I’m trying to get my ducks in a row for college and I honestly didn’t even click with the guy that I was with at the time and I just want it out of that relationship it was sucking the life out of me because he was just, I don’t want to sound rude but it was just so overwhelming that he wanted me to fix every single problem he had because he was very immature couldn't think logically. I couldn’t deal with it until one day I said it...
"I don’t love you, I never did and I’m sorry I just can’t do this" I wasn't stressing out about this anymore, I want time for myself and I rather be alone and recover from everything I was dealing with, physically and emotionally. So the biggest truth I’ve ever ever told someone was the fact that I did not love them and I never did, I try to not think about it too much because he was so hurt but I was hurting too, silently.
I am pretty much your average, awkward friend that can relate to pretty much anything you can talk about.